There comes a time when people exchange beautiful vows. For some it is out of pressure from other sources. There are some that did not want to get married at all. They do it because they are expected to do so and makes them safe. After all, they assume that is what other people want for them. It ends up being a lovely wedding but not a lovely marriage. No need to panic because this is okay. Below is what kids need to be told about divorce.
It is not always that you meet someone who has potential. Majority of people don’t always reach their potential. This is because of inability or their choices. Potential can be limiting. You check out what is presented at that time. This is what the rest of the world sees. This mistake has been made with ex boyfriends at some point in life. At that point you perceived that they had all the qualities you were looking for. The ex boyfriend talked well, walked well and after some tine it was just another story.
Many people love the idea of getting married.
However, marriage can turn out to be tough even if it is healthy and still functional. Despite both of you doing your best and making sure that everything is right, you will still meet some rough patches. It is essential that your kids know that divorce does not mean that you are doing the wrong things. Abuse can occur. There could be miscommunication. Also, there could be irreconcilable differences. Divorce is based on grounds that are legit. There are times when parents just have to do what they got to do and stop beating themselves up. There is no point in regretting about everything because at some point this person brought you much joy.
Divorce can be frustrating. However, staying in a marriage for the sake of your kids or other potential reasons can make one live in resentment, fear and failure of enjoying your life. There are times when couples can go for marriage counseling and it helps them. However, at times divorce is the only option left.
At times it’s best to outgrow the people you once feared and admit that it will not work out. Every person is free to make their choices to make despite the world being so judgemental. Parents need to tell their kids that they have not failed and some things are better left that way. Also, it is rather obvious that divorce can be painful. However, it can hurt more to stay in a marriage you are not happy at all. You will keep thinking about the risks that you did not take and the freedom that you can get from being free. This is what hurts most.